Monday, February 23, 2015

Magnificent Monday-fighting Your Crazy



I came across this clip from the most unlikeliest of places-the television show Divorce Court. This is unlikely because it's a rare day that I watch television and when I do it's even more rare that I watch court shows. But a friend posted this and it reminded me of some of what we talk about here on EMDF. Naturally, I had to share it with you guys along with my thoughts.

In the clip the judge is encouraging a defendant (a woman) to let go of her anger and fear. Now you know that we have talked about fear quite a bit in the past and I can agree to much of what the judge says to the defendant. She describes a pattern of fear that causes anger that causes "crazy" and walks the defendant through her pattern of pain, fear and anger. Now I don't know the whole story and I don't know what preceded the judge giving the woman this advice but I like what she had to say.

My thought is that we have to understand that anger is a secondary emotion. The presenting issue that makes us angry is rarely if ever the actual issue but it's usually the memory or experience that the presenting issue triggers that is the actual problem. For example, you may be angry that your significant other who forgot to pay the light bill when it was due and when you were a child you experienced the electricity being turned off because a parent didn't pay the bill on time. The current situation with your significant other may trigger that memory and cause you to be fearful that the electricity may be turned off and in turn cause you to be angry with your significant other.

This is just an example for the sake of illustration but our previous experiences that caused us pain can still  show up in other areas of our lives today. They can cause us to put up walls and close ourselves off to the world because we are afraid that someone will hurt us again. They can cause us to be angry and bitter and hurt the people we luv because we haven't worked through the pain of any previous experiences that hurt us.

The one place where I differ with the judge is in making a list of what is wrong with us as she encourages the defendant to do. Most of us are very good at stating what we think is "wrong" with us. I once conducted a class on affirmations and as part of the class I gave the ladies a few seconds to write down 10 things they thought were"wrong" with them; they wrote them down with ease. I then gave them the same amount of time to write down 10 things that were great about them. they had a difficult time writing this list and most could only come up with 3 or 4 great things about themselves. This is unfortunate because we are programmed to criticize ourselves and focus on what is "wrong" with us but rarely are we taught to recognize and affirm the things that are "right" with us.

We are often taught that talking about our good characteristics is tantamount to being cocky and arrogant and conceited. But as long as we are focusing on the areas we need to work on we are OK by societies standards. It's OK to look in the mirror and take responsibility for the areas of our lives that we need to grow in and acknowledge those areas. I encourage that.  It is also OK to look in the mirror and acknowledge and affirm the areas where we rock! I encourage that too!!

In working through any anger or "crazy" issues that you may have make sure to acknowledge that which makes you great while you are acknowledging the things you need to work on. Acknowledge that you are smart, talented, creative, beautiful, compassionate, impartial or whatever great qualities that make you YOU! Be sure to be gentle and luving with yourself and give yourself the space to be human. We all have fears but we don't have to let those fears take over our lives and turn into crazy.

As always, your thoughts are appreciated! Also, be sure to download Daily Desserts to Inspire Self-Love for more inspiring ways to affirm your greatness!!

In luv and dessert,

Leisa Monique

Saturday, February 14, 2015

Happy Valentines Day-Daily Desserts to Inspire Self-Love



Happy Valentines Day to you all! I hope that while you're giving luv to those closest to you, that you are giving luv to the most important person in your life: YOU! 

As my Valentines Day gift to you I want to share with you something that I have been working on for quite some time. It's called "Daily Desserts to Inspire Self-Love" and it is my labor of luv to all of you. I hope you enjoy it. Click HERE to download.  Leave a comment in the comment section below and let me know what you think. 

In Luv and Dessert, 

Leisa Monique

Wednesday, February 11, 2015

Fear and Personal Responsibility

Wow, I can hardly believe that I just posted my very first video on YouTube and I feel pretty good about it. About the video, yes, but more about taking personal responsibility and finally working through the fear that I felt about posting videos. I have my 12 year old fearless daughter to thank for that and for this post. It's what I like about kids; they don't succumb to fear. My daughter posts her videos and shares her thoughts with the world regardless of who may not like it and I have learned a lot from her. She handles her emotions about it like a champ!

Recording and posting this video reminded me of the anxiety that I used to have about such things. I worked through the fear of speaking publicly years ago and can now work a stage like you wouldn't believe! I'm in my element when I'm on stage in front of a group of powerful women and I can say that being in front of a camera doesn't bother me much either. By now you might be asking "So what was the fear about then Leisa?" Well, it was about feeling exposed and not in control. You see, when I'm on stage speaking, I have a good idea of who I'm speaking to. I get to choose who I get in front of and what I say and the audience is fairly limited. I'm prepared for this.  But posting a video of me talking about something I'm passionate about on a social media site exposes me to the world and for me that was a little scary.

People can be ruthless in their commentary and critique everything from your hair to what you are wearing to your grammar to everything and that was part of the fear; I wasn't ready to feel the sting of people's critique. But I also wasn't ready for the praise that may come as well. Ahhh, the dichotomy of it all.

 If you watch the video you'll notice that I am completely natural. I purposely wore no makeup and kept everything simple. I wanted to present myself JUST AS I AM in the raw. This is me y'all. As much as I talk about being your authentic self and being transparent I felt it necessary to present myself as such in my first video. But other's may not feel that way and that's OK with me. I'm a very simple girl and that translates into every aspect of my life.

I know that working through fear isn't always easy. But knowing who you are-powerful, Divine, beautiful, love-and knowing that nothing anyone says about you can change that helps. When you are completely confident in who you are you can move forward through life and not worry about what others have to say about you. You can understand the place they are in and the source of their comments and give them the space to be where they are and know that it has nothing to do with you.

One of the most valuable pieces of wisdom I ever received was that "I am above no one and I am beneath no one." Embracing this teaching has proven to be powerful for me and it has provided me with the ability to resist personalizing what other's have to say about me. Reminding myself of this has been invaluable in helping me take responsibility for my own existence. It has taken some time as it relates to publicly posting videos but I'm happy to say I'm here and I'm excited.

I hope that you will take this to heart and whenever you are feeling fear about something know that no one can do it for you but you. We can look to others for inspiration but the power lies within you. so push fear aside, remember who you are and do your thing!

In luv and Dessert,

Leisa Monique

Eat My Dessert First Intro and Personal Responsibility






Oh my goodness!! I FINALLY published my first video! At the urging of  advisors and close friends, I finally decided to make a video and actually post it. Y'all, this was a grueling process! I can see why some people avoid making and posting videos; it took forever to post!

To be honest with you, this is not the first video that I have recorded but it is the first one that I actually posted. Why? Because of fear! Yep, even I get fearful at times; fearful of criticism and even fearful of praise.  but this year I decided that I was going to operate in excellence and that means giving my best and part of that working through whatever fear I have about publishing and doing it!

Even though in the video I speak about something close to me that I'm really passionate about-personal responsibility-this video was more about actually DOING it and follow through! This is an area that I have not been as strong in as I would like to be but all that is changing!! I'm taking personal responsibility for my life and how I live it! I hope you find some inspiration to do the same!

In luv and Dessert,

Leisa Monique

Monday, January 13, 2014

Magnificent Monday-Recalibrate Your Life





Already this morning I've seen the "Manic Monday" and other posts about how horrible Monday is for some. This always baffles me because I look at Monday as the beginning and a perfect opportunity to decide what kind of week you are going to have. I look at is as a perfect time to calibrate your week.

I know it's the first day after the weekend but that is the perfect time to move past your previous week and start over on your goals and desires. Maybe you didn't get done all that you wanted to get done in the previous week; Monday is a perfect day to decide to finish it. Maybe you experienced some challenges in the previous week or over the weekend; Monday is a perfect day to move past those challenges. It's a perfect day to decide that you are going to have a productive week. It's a perfect day to decide that you are not going to have the same kind of day or week that those around are you are having. It's a perfect day to decide that YOU are going to live the life that you want to live.

 If you have traditionally dreaded Monday and looked at it as the worst day of your life, I implore you to recalibrate and change your outlook on Monday. It's the beginning, a clean slate and you and only you get to decide how your week is going to go. Regardless of how those around you are behaving, choose to be happy today. Choose to be in peace today. Choose to be an example of what Monday can really be.

In luv and dessert,

Leisa Monique


Photo source: weightwatchers.com


Tuesday, January 7, 2014

Dolce Far Niente


I'm so excited y'all! I have been working on a project that is very close to my heart for the past few weeks and I'm thrilled to say that it is in the final stages of completion. It's a compilation of inspirational "desserts" to inspire you in the new year and I'm publishing it as an ebook.  I have never done anything like this before but I wanted to give you something to inspire you to greatness in this new year and it is what I came up with. The post for today is an excerpt from the ebook. I hope you enjoy it. I'll publish more details on the ebook and how you can get your copy in the very near future. In the meantime, please enjoy this post. 




Sometimes... "Nothing" is much better than "Something.”
Arafath Shanas

Recently, I watched the movie “Eat, Pray, Love” again. In the movie one of the characters points out that the Italians have a saying “Dolce Far Niente” which means “The Sweetness of Doing Nothing.” How did I miss this all the other times I watched this movie? Taking time to sit in silence, watch the sunrise, the sunset, and still my mind and spirit have always been important to me. This is how I prefer to spend my days. Many people in my circle often ask me “what do you DO all day?” You see, I have the pleasure of working from home and doing exactly what it is that I want to do which is writing, reading, teaching, training, consulting and going to school full time. I chose my life and I chose to give up whatever would hinder me from having this life. I have let go of the expectations that the world has for me; the expectation that says I should always be striving to do more, have more, be more. I'm perfectly OK with taking time out of my day to do absolutely nothing without guilt or shame. I work hard for my clients. I work hard in school and I work hard to take care of my children. I also make sure that I take time to do one of my favorite things: nothing.
I encourage you to take time out of your day to do nothing. Take time to sit and enjoy the beauty that surrounds you and the beauty that is you. It may feel uncomfortable at first because we are programmed to always be doing something lest we be considered lazy. This way of thinking is what has us in the state of poor physical and mental health that we are in. Let go of that thinking and allow yourself the pleasure of just being and doing nothing.

In luv and dessert, 
Leisa Monique



Saturday, December 7, 2013

Treasure



Yesterday was one of the most challenging days of my life. After an accident that sent a pedestrian to the hospital I began to question a lot. I felt absolutely awful about what happened and kept wondering why did it happen in the first place. I have learned that life gives us experiences that we need in any given moment for our growth and evolution but I gotta tell you, this one sent my mind wondering and even feeling a little down.

In my meditation this morning I was reminded of who I AM: Luv. I was reminded of all of the times that I have demonstrated luv including at the scene of the accident yesterday which turned out to be a tremendous blessing mostly because of the people that I met. During my meditation, this tune erupted in my Spirit and once again, I was reminded of who I AM: a Treasure of the Divine.

 I want to remind you that no matter what happens in our daily lives we are luv'd. Don't allow the events of daily life to cause you to question who you are at your core. We all are presented with challenges and sometimes make decision that causes us to wonder "what the hell was I thinking," but none of that changes who we are at our core.

We are human and in our humanness we don't always do things the way we think we should. But just be reminded that inherent in every challenge or problem lies the solution or the answer. Look there. For surely you will find your treasure.


Thursday, November 28, 2013

Fabulous Thanksgiving To You!




“Gratitude means to recognize the good in your life, be thankful for whatever you have, some people may not even have one of those things you consider precious to you (love, family, friends etc). Each day give thanks for the gift of life.You are blessed” 
 Unknown

"If a fellow isn't thankful for what he's got, he isn't likely to be thankful for what he's going to get."
Frank A. Clark 




Good morning desserters. To all of my American friends, I wish you a wonder-filled Thanksgiving today. For all of my friends in other parts of the world that don't celebrate Thanksgiving, I wish you a day of joy, peace, awareness, gratitude and consciousness. Know that I am thankful for each of you.  May you continue to see the blessing in YOU and may you always recognize your worth and value.

In gratitude,

Leisa Monique


Saturday, November 9, 2013

Where The Girls Are-The Missing Voices of Women of Color In...Everything

One aspect of myself that I don't often reveal here on the blog, is my passion for writing about the missing voices of women of color in mainstream media. I don't necessarily identify with feminism (perhaps because I haven't found a stream of feminism that my belief system fits into), but I do have much to say about how women, particularly women of color, are viewed  by and represented (or not) in feminism.

Here, two of my most favorite voices in this work sit down for a discussion on some of the topics I'm most passionate about. This is a treat for ALL women and I do hope you will watch and listen and then send me your comments and questions so that we can continue the discussion.

Leisa

Saturday, September 7, 2013

Good Morning Beautiful!


This gem came through my Facebook feed this morning and it reminded me of YOU! Fabulous morning to all of you! Make this a day that you will never forget! Make it Beautiful! 





Leisa Monique

Monday, August 26, 2013

What About Your Freedom


“The most important kind of freedom is to be what you really are. You trade in your reality for a role. You trade in your sense for an act. You give up your ability to feel, and in exchange, put on a mask. There can't be any large-scale revolution until there's a personal revolution, on an individual level. It's got to happen inside first.” 
― Jim Morrison

“Now that she had nothing to lose, she was free.” 
― Paulo Coelho





I don't think I need to say much more! It's Monday, embrace your freedom to decide what kind of week you will have. Don't allow anyone or anything to dictate how your day, your week or your life will go. Know and be who you are. And above all else, take time to enjoy the "desserts" of life...first!

Leisa Monique

Thursday, August 1, 2013

Transition-Where You Were And Where You Are Going

"A lot of people resist transition and therefore never allow themselves to enjoy who they are. Embrace the change, no mater what it is; Once you do, you can learn about he new world you're in and take advantage of it.
Nikki Giovanni 


“When I was going through my transition of being famous, I tried to ask God why was I here? Surely, it wasn't just to win three gold medals. There has to be more to this life than that! 
Wilma Rudolph

I tear up as I write this. Yet again, I'm at a point of transition in my life and though I'm usually excited about the process of transition and look forward to what's on the other side, this time I'm just tired. I feel like I've been in a perpetual transition for the past 5 years of my life. I'm mentally and emotionally exhausted and frankly I just want this shit to be over.

I know that for those of you who follow this blog regularly this may be a bit unusual to hear from me. But if you remember I always said that I would be transparent and share my own experiences with you so when I'm "going through" you get to read about it. I actually have been a bit absent from the blog for a while and for that I apologize. When I get to this point I tend to withdraw so that I can "hear" and get direction.

You guys know that I am a firm believe that life gives us exactly what we need at the moment we need it in order for us to grow and evolve from where we are to where we will be. I have always embraced that and trusted in the process. There is something different for me this time: there is so much frustration that I can hardly focus on the process and what this experience is here to help me do. I'm even a bit angry-at whom I'm not so sure. Ego has set in and I haven't even engaged in my usual morning "dessert" practices of meditation, exercise, dancing and all the other stuff I usually do.

I have the greatest kids a mother could ask for though. They know me so well and can "feel" when I'm in this place. They tend to gather around me quietly as if to show their luv and support. They give me lots of hugs, cook for me and just offer their love. I appreciate that and the point is that we need support when we are experiencing transition. My close friends also "feel" this place I'm in. They call, send an encouraging text message but most of all they just let me BE.

And that is exactly what I have decided to do: to just BE and allow the beauty of this transition to unfold in front of me. I  AM releasing my resistance to it. I AM letting go of the fear of lack and not being able to provide for my family. I AM returning to my center of "knowing" and trusting that all is in Divine order because it is.

What I know for sure is that I AM luv'd and supported. I know that I AM not in this process alone but that the Divine Universe is with me every step of the way. I AM opening myself back up to what this experience has come to show me and I AM embracing it. This was not an easy thing to do as the frustration of being here (again) was almost overwhelming. But I know that all is well even when I feel like it's not I know that it is.

What does transition look like for you and how do you get through it? Do you have practices in place to support yourself? Whatever you do please remember that you are not your experience. Know that there is something wonder-filled in the process of transition. Embrace it and embrace where you will be on the other side. Oh, and don't forget (or abandon) your "Dessert" in all of this. It will be what gets you through to the other side!

Monday, July 29, 2013

Magnificent Monday-Choose Freedom






My theme for this week is Freedom-freedom from judging...myself or others! I find it quite amazing that we as humans so often criticize each other for the way that we handle the circumstances of life. We look at others and how they deal with situations or issues and make judgments about their character because they handle a particular situation different than the way we would handle it. Who ever said we are "right?" We often impose our  standards onto others (often unconsciously) and when they do something differently than the way we would do it we are quick to judge.

Often, people's life experiences determine how we handle what comes our way on a daily basis. Because we all have different experiences that make us who we are, we will all handle things differently. That doesn't mean it's right or wrong. It's just different! Luv is allowing others to be who they are and handle life the way THEY would handle it and not the way YOU would handle it AND not criticizing them for it.

Free yourself this week! Free yourself from criticism and judgment of yourself and others. Allow yourself and others the space to evolve and grow from every situations that presents itself in your life this week. Give yourself permission to be who you are. Embrace every aspect of your personality for it makes you who you are! And resolve to have a great week no matter what comes your way!

As always, have a Magnificent Monday!

Sunday, June 16, 2013

Please Don't Wish Me A Happy Father's Day

Happy Father's Day. This is a post that I originally posted last year for Father's Day. I hope you enjoy it. Share your thoughts! 



"Happy Father's day to all the single mothers out there!" A sentiment we hear so much on Father's day and one that I personally believe is detrimental.  I myself have received a few text messages today wishing me a happy father's day and I cringe at the thought of getting them. Although there are many single and divorced mother's out there fulfilling the duties of their role as a mother and the role of father to their children they will never be a father!

I certainly understand the desire to congratulate and offer support to the many heroic women who are raising children on their own but more often than not this sentiment is used to disparage men who are not actively involved in their children's lives. Although I am a divorced mother of four I understand that I am my children's  mother and not their father. I understand that I will never be their father I will only be their mother. I make sure that my children understand this and never will I allow them to wish me a happy father's day because I  sometimes fulfill the duties of both roles.

When women take on the role of being mother and father many times they start to believe that they don't need a man in the house to help raise their children. True, there are many single women who are raising and have raised stable successful children but nothing can take the place of children having a father in the home. Fathers are needed in the home but because many women have taken on this "I don't need a man" attitude they are not even open to the possibility of allowing a man to come in and be a part of their family. And why should they when they have been made to believe that they are both the mother and father and the presence of a man is not necessary in the lives of them and their children.

For little girls seeing this they too begin to believe that it is not necessary to have a man in the home to raise children. They see mama doing it and they often don't learn the skills necessary to have a stable successful relationship with a man and build a family. They see their mother with children but they don't see a man involved in those children's lives and the cycle is perpetuated. For little boys, the message is that I can have babies but I don't need to be involved in raising those babies because their mother can do it on her own. Their value as a future husband and father is diminished as they too see their mother raising her children on her own and being praised for it and neither do they learn the necessary skills to build a stable successful relationship with a woman. They also don't learn the value of being a father and being a part of the lives of their women and children.

Children deserve to have a mother and a father in their lives whether their parents are still married or divorced or they are being raised by an unwed mother. Just because their parents may no longer be together doesn't mean that they have to lose the presence of their father or someone else who is willing to fulfill the role of father in their lives. Mother's should be mothers and understand that they can and never will be fathers. I believe that one of  the best gifts a mother can give to her children is to speak well of her children's father even if their father is not actively present in their lives. Words spoken highly of their father to children often give children a sense of respect for him and I believe that the goal should always be to build respect even if in the mind of the mother he doesn't deserve it.

So to all of the mothers out there that are raising children on their own I take my hat off to you but please, help your children understand the importance of having a father in their lives by just being their mother.


Sunday, May 12, 2013

Repost-A Mother's Vision




When I was a little girl my mother shared a story with me that forever impacted my life. It is a story that she still tells me to this very day and it is a story that I refer to whenever I am experiencing challenges in my life and when I have been tempted to throw in the towel.

She tells me that one day when I was a  baby she was at the train station waiting to board a train from San Bernardino to Los Angeles. She was holding me in her arms enjoying her day and an old lady walked past her. She said that as the lady passed her she stopped and turned around and walked over to where my young mother was sitting holding me. She smiled at my mother and said "That is a very special baby that you have. She is going to do great things in her life!" My mother smiled back and said "thank you" and the lady continued on her way.

There have been times in my life when I have faced what seemed to be insurmountable challenges none of which I will go into in this post. But during those times I would always remember my mothers words to me about what the lady shared with her about my life. Throughout my life my mother instinctively knew when I was experiencing those challenges and  needed to hear that story. She would always call me and tell it to me all over again as if for the first time. It has gotten me through some pretty rough times and continues to drive me even today. 

I am grateful that my mother has held that vision for me all these years and she continues to do so. I don't even think she knows how much of an impact that it has had on my life all these years. 

To all of the mothers that are holding a vision of greatness for your children keep holding that vision for your children! Tell it to them often and let them know that they are destined to do great things. When they find themselves dealing with circumstances that are undesirable they will have their mother's vision to fall back on and remind them to keep moving forward. 

I don't know how I would have gotten through the rough times in my life had it not been for my mother's luv and her continuing to tell me that story.  The beautiful thing is that I will never have to know!

Wishing all of you a very happy Mother's day! And while you are holding that vision for your children please also remember the vision for your own life! Remember that you too are meant to do great things in this lifetime! Whatever your dream is, whatever your life's desire is hold on to that dream and don't let it go! For it was given to you with a purpose! 

Saturday, March 23, 2013

Your Gift To Me, My Gift To You!



Fabulous morning to you EMDF family! Yesterday was my Earth/birthday and it was a most fabulous day! I have opened myself up and allowed the Divine to luv me. I have graciously accepted every gift that was offered to me without resistance. This may not sound like a big deal but you know how it is when you like to be the one giving but have a hard time allowing anyone to do anything for you? Yep, that's me. It's so hard sometimes to allow others to give to me but I have learned that when you don't allow others to give to you you rob them of the joy and satisfaction they feel from being the giver. We block the flow of abundance when we don't allow others to do their part by not receiving their gifts. 

So, in order not to block the flow I got out of the way and graciously accepted every Divine gift that was offered to me. It felt marvelous to be luv'd by so many. Family, you are so deserving of the luv that the Divine has for you so open yourself and receive it. Allow the people that have been placed in your life to operate in their gifts and let them luv you. 

In my tradition I am continuing my earthday celebration through the weekend and I want to celebrate with YOU!  I would like to continue the celebration by giving you a gift but I need something from you.  if you will, please write a comment on this post and let me know how this blog has inspired you. If there has been anything that you have read here that has helped, comforted or inspired you please let me know that in your comment. That will be your gift to me. My gift to you will something special from me. It may be a written piece, a photo or something else that I am inspired to give you but it will be something inspired by the Divine. 

Also, please leave an email address where I can reach you. If you don't feel comfortable posting this information you can email me at: leisa@eatmydessertfirst.com. I am excited about this and I look forward to reading your comments. 

Leisa Monique

Monday, March 11, 2013

Magnificent Monday-Lift Your Head




It's Monday, my favorite day of the week and I tell you life woke me up early this morning; earlier than I like to wake up. I had so many things on my mind that I was a bit restless. I tossed and turned and tried to go back to sleep but sleep was not to be had. For once I was actually thankful for the recent time change because had we not moved our clocks forward the hour in which I woke up from sleep would have been ridiculous.

As I lay in bed anticipating all of the growth opportunities disguised as challenges that would present themselves today (See how we create stress for ourselves when none actually exists?)I asked myself: What would I say to all the people that follow me and my writing? What would I advise them to do in this situation? I decided to do what I would tell all of you to do and do something to nourish my Spirit: Eat My Dessert First! I prayed!

In my prayer I reminded myself that none of the things on my mind were actually happening  but that I was only thinking about what I thought would happen. I reminded myself that it was a beautiful Monday morning and that in that moment everything I needed I already had. I expressed gratitude for not only having all of my and my children's needs met but for the Spirit of gratitude.

In that moment a song came up in my Spirit, a song that I used to luv so very much but that I hadn't listened to in many years. It was a song that we used to sing when I was in the church choir and it nourished my soul every time I heard it. I searched for and found it on the internet and just like before it nourished my soul.

Listening to it reminded me that there was nothing that I needed to be worrying about. It reminded me of who I AM. I am listening to it as I write this and I can hardly sit still; I just want to get up and dance! I want to sing! I'm in Peace and all the concerns that wouldn't let me sleep this morning are gone. I know that there is nothing that can disturb my peace because I have everything that I need in this moment.

I'm grateful for this experience because it served as a reminder to me no matter what challenges I face I am already equipped to face them. It reminded me that no matter what the challenge is that presents itself the solution is within the challenge and I just have to sit in stillness and wait for the solution to emerge.

I am including this song for you this morning. Listen to it. Allow the words to nourish your soul and Spirit. Lift your head no matter what challenges you are facing today. Know that you are well equipped to face them and that everything you need you already have within you. Remember that the challenges we are presented with are just what we need in that moment and that is has come for our growth.

Wishing you a most Magnificent Monday of peace, luv and growth. Enjoy your day and as always, Eat Your Dessert First!

Leisa Monique


Monday, March 4, 2013

Magnificent Monday-Celebrate Your Own History



As we celebrate Women's History Month I hope that you will take a moment to celebrate your own history! Yes, YOUR history. Often we look at others that have made an impact on the world and think that we could never have such an impact. People like Oprah Winfrey, Marianne Williamson, Rosa Parks, Sojourner Truth, Hillary Clinton have all made their mark on the world and have created a legacy that will be talked about long after they have left this earth.

But what I want you to know is that YOU have left and impact as well and are creating YOUR legacy. Perhaps you don't think so but there is someone somewhere that you have encouraged, uplifted or been an example to whether you know it or not. If you smiled at someone or held a door open, gave someone a ride when they were walking or just showed kindness to someone then you have played a part in making this world a better place. Someone will remember you and the kindness you showed them. That is your history.

You don't have to be the first woman in space or the youngest or the first female CEO to make history. You simply have to decided to live your purpose and that will impact all you come in contact with.

I encourage you to take some time today and reflect on your accomplishments and the impact that you have had on those around you. Understand that you are making history whether you know it or not. What will people say about you when you are no longer in their presence? That is a question I hope you will ask yourself and then set an intention to leave a lasting impression and make your mark on the world.

Friday, March 1, 2013

Cherish The Day, Cherish your-SELF


Good morning Desserters! It's a most fabulous Friday and although there have been some growth opportunities disguised as challenges (this was a tough week) it was a great week! I experiences some frustrations and shed some tears but when it was all said and done I know that everything I experienced was for my good. I know that now (and knew it then) but it was challenging to rely on that during the experience.

 I trust that as you experienced any challenges this past week that you too remembered that during it all you were growing and evolving. I trust that you were not critical of yourself but supported and luv'd yourself through it all. Whether you did or didn't you are here! Take a moment to reflect on your week and acknowledge your victories and accomplishments. Take some time to cherish and enjoy this beautiful day and your beautiful self!

Go out and do something nice for yourself and for others that cross your path today. Offer a smile to someone, offer a compliment, hold open a door, buy someone a coffee at the coffee shop or have yourself some dessert in the middle of the day. Not only will you will make someone's day but you will  make your day as well!

In dessert,

Leisa